Love, when it comes to
marriage.. is like entering a totally different world..
I’m not saying that the
meaning would change, but the focus would absolutely change.
In other words, a couple who
spend a day without having commitment as husband and wife might not think of
the so-called kid. Perhaps some do consider about this but I believe it’s only
for those who 100% love kids.
The point is . . .
Men and women tend to have a different
goal in living this life. For women who do not have high education background
tend to follow their husbands without having the reasons or let’s say the right
reasons to do it. They have no power needed to deny their husbands although what
the husbands do might not be proper.
The funny thing is; God
always decides this way.. setting a powerful man up to a weak lady.. which is
in certain ways none can uncover this fact. However, because of the
difference somehow some couple survive better. Which is again, very funny.
Let’s take an example: you have a discussion with some friends about something
then you are in the cons part, I believe that you whatever happens would defend
your argument to show the right points based on your paradigm. It is to say, if
this situation happens in a marriage life, then, what happen?
Well, some couples who are
deeply into it would may be act as nothing happen, while others who never
imagine things will work that way can end up in the court with excellent
lawyers.
Everything on earth can be
seen from many sides. It’s like two sides of a coin. Just flip and you’ll see
the other part. Anyway, life wouldn't be
that easy since we people, human being, are likely to see it not only from two
sides.
In a marriage where the women
have high education, things won’t go easier, it might be more complicated since
women would not only do but think. Their paradigm of life tries to suit the
others around her. They, tend to be more modern, and are able to find the smart
ways in solving any problems even though
the way they think might not be understood by others especially their
husband. This would create incomparable argument in which their thoughts
experiencing dramatic discrepancy.
How to solve?
They should go back to the
first time they say “yes for the marriage”. It will somehow refresh their mind
about the huge feeling they might have back in those days.
Is it easy? No, BIG NO, since
everyone cannot just go back to see what’s behind them while they have gone far
away from that.
However, some are willing to do that... while others not, especially those who have tried to deny any negative thoughts before getting into marriage.
Why?
Well, since they couldn't solve the problem in the early marriage, they will live with it like forever. Some couples who realise the fact that they actually cannot be together in a marriage will not go further on the whole things by cancelling the wedding, but those who feel the same way and surrounded by their family won’t have a huge capacity to do anything except trying to go through with it and find a way to fix it.
Pretty risky? Yes, but life
would be very boring if everything goes on the right path without any bump.
Am I right on this?
The best advice is .. find
your true love, find a soul mate (literally) who can suits your intelligence, no
matter what, even if you need 10 years, someday you’ll thank God for that.
