I have no idea why 22nd December is called as Mother's day...
Yet we all know.. every day mother is still a mother
I remember those days.. when my mom was so busy with her job.. travelling into several places.. out of town.. I was on my own..
I had a baby sitter so mom didn't worry a thing.. at least. that what I thought.
anyway....
once I felt my mom didn't care about me.. just because so many times I met her only in the evening,or a few minutes in the morning..
But when I was at university..
I felt different..
I was like... hey.. I'm so proud having that kind of mom, although we rarely met, but we still kept in touch by phone
I remember when I had a lot of problems with boys.. with school.. with college... (women.. ^^)
she was there helping me out of them..
now... she is still there..
she is a real mom .. always knows the best for us..
who always teaches us (her children) to be better people
she teaches us.. how to be special.. special because we can share many things to friends .. relatives..
if I have to describe how she is.. then words are not enough..
my mom is not perfect.. but to me.. she is so amazing..
I learn to be an independent woman from her..
She had a bright career.. I want to be like her
but surely it's gonna be different... hmmm...
at the time she retired from her job.. many people still trusted her to be a leader..
now... She is busy with several organisations...
She really enjoys her life
I enjoy being her daughter..
that's my mom....
how is your mom???
share your story... ^^
BRAVO for the MOTHERS... ^_^
12.21.2009
12.13.2009
A journey that changes my life
Have you ever gone somewhere alone.. and then got lost??
I have, I wasn't lost but I would.. if someone didn't help me.
Few years ago , exactly in the early of 2002, when I was at second semester in University, I had to attend my sister's graduation at Airlangga University in Surabaya.
My family went to Surabaya by car from Magetan, which means I couldn't join them because I was in Malang. I decided to contact the travel agency, which provided good car to take me there. I told them to pick me up in front of the campus at 04.00 PM, because I still had several classes in the morning up to 03.00 PM.
Around 04.00 PM I waited the car in front of the campus' gate, I called the agency and they said the driver has left and he should has been there waiting for me, I have told them that I saw no car waiting for me but they didn't want to know about it.
Then I was like "God... what should I do? I've never gone to Surabaya alone before" suddenly I remembered a friend who has lived in Malang for years, I called him and told him what happened,and he suggested me to go to the bus station named Arjosari (there are too many bus stations in Malang) and take the 'Patas' bus to Surabaya
(Patas is the nick name for a bus which can go faster, with good AC,nice seats, not really expensive and the most important thing is secure).
anyway... I went to the bus station by public transportation, I thought it was only 20 minutes to get there,but it was about 60 minutes. I thought I took the wrong transportation, I thought I was lost, then I saw a woman who seemed nicer than the other passengers.
I asked her "is it the right transportation to go to Arjosari bus station?"
She said "yes, is this your first time going there by public transportation?"
I smiled and answered "first time ever, I want to go to Surabaya, can you help me?"
then She smiled and said "sure, I actually also want to pick someone there, I'll show you the bus, don't worry"
I felt terrible and also relieved, everything would be confusing if you knew nothing about it.
at the bus station the woman really helped me.. I wished I knew her name, or her house.well, after showing me the bus, she left me and said "take care, your trip will be about 2 hours, good luck"
I only could say "Thank you so much"
in the bus, I sat next to a man, he was an Arabian,he looked so serious,at a glance he was scary.. but then I tried not to care about him. I turned on my walkman, and listened to the Corrs, everything changed when I saw the man prayed Maghrib, I quickly erased my first impression about him and really hoped that he was a real nice guy.
around 7PM, many people were suddenly busy preparing to get off, I remembered the woman's words "2 hours" which meant I still had another hour. I didn't know how it started, I panicked, and I bravely asked the man "excuse me sir, why everybody was busy and so noisy?"
He said "everyone will get off at the next station"
I complained "but the next station is still about in an hour, am I right?"
He was a bit surprised, and then he asked me "where are you going?"
I answered "Surabaya, my friend told me that I should get off at Bungurasih bus station"
the man suddenly gave me a worry look, he said "I bet this is your first time having a bus to Surabaya? ok, the next station is in Sidoarjo, do you know where you are going?"
I nodded like a little girl, I told him about my sister, then He said "okay, I believe you have much money so you can take a taxi to drive you to Airlangga, actually I gotta get off at Sidoarjo, but I think I have to accompany you to Surabaya, so you don't have to worry anything "
I couldn't believe of what I just heard, the man that I thought scary.. turned to be a really nice man,, I was really ashamed to my own self. I only looked at the face, but not the heart.
At Bungurasih, He held my hand and took me to find a taxi, I was a bit shocked because the bus station was really crowded, and many taxi drivers offer me their taxis. The man told me that not all of the taxis there were good, many drivers tried to fool us. I said nothing and followed his steps, I never thought that I would meet someone like him, someone who really cared about the others. I never imagined that Bungurasih was a real huge bus station, I could have been lost if this man didn't walk beside me. At that moment I promised to God, I promised to see people by their hearts, and to think positive to the others.
Few minutes later we met a bunch of taxis again, and I didn't know what was on his mind, He told me "don't talk too much to the driver, if He ask you who I am, just answer I'm your father and I still have a meeting before catching you in Airlangga University"
then He took me to one of the taxis there, and talked to the driver "She is my daughter,please take her to Airlangga University, take her to the dormitory, my first daughter will wait there, thank you.. "
God.. I was really.. shocked.. this man was really nice, he also wrote his name and his cell phone's number on a small paper, then said "ok, take care, see you there"
of course the driver didn't know that the meaning of 'see you' was a real good bye.
when the taxi was moving, that man stood and waved his hand, and smiled. I smiled back and said to God to forgive all my silly thoughts about him.
few minutes later I arrived in my sister's place, where she and all of her friends had been waiting for me, everybody thought that I was lost somewhere, because when they contacted the travel agency, they couldn't find any info about me. ow.. since then my dad bought a new cell phone and gave his old one to me.
until this moment on,, I still wonder where that man is, how he is doing, what he is doing.. many questions stack on my brain. but none can answer.. because ....unfortunately.. I lost that small paper.. I even cannot remember his name..
all I know... He is a nice man..
that was a real lesson that can be learned by everyone
sometimes you just have to take public transportation so you won't get any trouble like mine,,
sometimes you have to forget your own car just to get use to a situation like mine..
sometimes to get a good book, you really don't need to look at the cover..
the bottom line is... "don't judge a book by its cover" and always be ready to any situation.. ^_^
I have, I wasn't lost but I would.. if someone didn't help me.
Few years ago , exactly in the early of 2002, when I was at second semester in University, I had to attend my sister's graduation at Airlangga University in Surabaya.
My family went to Surabaya by car from Magetan, which means I couldn't join them because I was in Malang. I decided to contact the travel agency, which provided good car to take me there. I told them to pick me up in front of the campus at 04.00 PM, because I still had several classes in the morning up to 03.00 PM.
Around 04.00 PM I waited the car in front of the campus' gate, I called the agency and they said the driver has left and he should has been there waiting for me, I have told them that I saw no car waiting for me but they didn't want to know about it.
Then I was like "God... what should I do? I've never gone to Surabaya alone before" suddenly I remembered a friend who has lived in Malang for years, I called him and told him what happened,and he suggested me to go to the bus station named Arjosari (there are too many bus stations in Malang) and take the 'Patas' bus to Surabaya
(Patas is the nick name for a bus which can go faster, with good AC,nice seats, not really expensive and the most important thing is secure).
anyway... I went to the bus station by public transportation, I thought it was only 20 minutes to get there,but it was about 60 minutes. I thought I took the wrong transportation, I thought I was lost, then I saw a woman who seemed nicer than the other passengers.
I asked her "is it the right transportation to go to Arjosari bus station?"
She said "yes, is this your first time going there by public transportation?"
I smiled and answered "first time ever, I want to go to Surabaya, can you help me?"
then She smiled and said "sure, I actually also want to pick someone there, I'll show you the bus, don't worry"
I felt terrible and also relieved, everything would be confusing if you knew nothing about it.
at the bus station the woman really helped me.. I wished I knew her name, or her house.well, after showing me the bus, she left me and said "take care, your trip will be about 2 hours, good luck"
I only could say "Thank you so much"
in the bus, I sat next to a man, he was an Arabian,he looked so serious,at a glance he was scary.. but then I tried not to care about him. I turned on my walkman, and listened to the Corrs, everything changed when I saw the man prayed Maghrib, I quickly erased my first impression about him and really hoped that he was a real nice guy.
around 7PM, many people were suddenly busy preparing to get off, I remembered the woman's words "2 hours" which meant I still had another hour. I didn't know how it started, I panicked, and I bravely asked the man "excuse me sir, why everybody was busy and so noisy?"
He said "everyone will get off at the next station"
I complained "but the next station is still about in an hour, am I right?"
He was a bit surprised, and then he asked me "where are you going?"
I answered "Surabaya, my friend told me that I should get off at Bungurasih bus station"
the man suddenly gave me a worry look, he said "I bet this is your first time having a bus to Surabaya? ok, the next station is in Sidoarjo, do you know where you are going?"
I nodded like a little girl, I told him about my sister, then He said "okay, I believe you have much money so you can take a taxi to drive you to Airlangga, actually I gotta get off at Sidoarjo, but I think I have to accompany you to Surabaya, so you don't have to worry anything "
I couldn't believe of what I just heard, the man that I thought scary.. turned to be a really nice man,, I was really ashamed to my own self. I only looked at the face, but not the heart.
At Bungurasih, He held my hand and took me to find a taxi, I was a bit shocked because the bus station was really crowded, and many taxi drivers offer me their taxis. The man told me that not all of the taxis there were good, many drivers tried to fool us. I said nothing and followed his steps, I never thought that I would meet someone like him, someone who really cared about the others. I never imagined that Bungurasih was a real huge bus station, I could have been lost if this man didn't walk beside me. At that moment I promised to God, I promised to see people by their hearts, and to think positive to the others.
Few minutes later we met a bunch of taxis again, and I didn't know what was on his mind, He told me "don't talk too much to the driver, if He ask you who I am, just answer I'm your father and I still have a meeting before catching you in Airlangga University"
then He took me to one of the taxis there, and talked to the driver "She is my daughter,please take her to Airlangga University, take her to the dormitory, my first daughter will wait there, thank you.. "
God.. I was really.. shocked.. this man was really nice, he also wrote his name and his cell phone's number on a small paper, then said "ok, take care, see you there"
of course the driver didn't know that the meaning of 'see you' was a real good bye.
when the taxi was moving, that man stood and waved his hand, and smiled. I smiled back and said to God to forgive all my silly thoughts about him.
few minutes later I arrived in my sister's place, where she and all of her friends had been waiting for me, everybody thought that I was lost somewhere, because when they contacted the travel agency, they couldn't find any info about me. ow.. since then my dad bought a new cell phone and gave his old one to me.
until this moment on,, I still wonder where that man is, how he is doing, what he is doing.. many questions stack on my brain. but none can answer.. because ....unfortunately.. I lost that small paper.. I even cannot remember his name..
all I know... He is a nice man..
that was a real lesson that can be learned by everyone
sometimes you just have to take public transportation so you won't get any trouble like mine,,
sometimes you have to forget your own car just to get use to a situation like mine..
sometimes to get a good book, you really don't need to look at the cover..
the bottom line is... "don't judge a book by its cover" and always be ready to any situation.. ^_^
12.11.2009
no boundaries
sometimes when we do something .. we always think other people,, whether they like it or not..
making decisions of being the real me is so much hard,, but it's kinda brand new me..
i've done this before,, but then i couldn't done it perfectly..
it's about changing habits..
i gotta manage my self to do and to get what i really want..
it's like .. now i've found what the most important thing in my life.. it's not about love,,
it's about getting ahead.. taking new paths..facing the risks..getting something..
hmmm.. sounds challenging ha??
but it's true.. and i like it..i mean.. i really like it..
making decisions of being the real me is so much hard,, but it's kinda brand new me..
i've done this before,, but then i couldn't done it perfectly..
it's about changing habits..
i gotta manage my self to do and to get what i really want..
it's like .. now i've found what the most important thing in my life.. it's not about love,,
it's about getting ahead.. taking new paths..facing the risks..getting something..
hmmm.. sounds challenging ha??
but it's true.. and i like it..i mean.. i really like it..
11.30.2009
an advice from a teacher
To my students,
It's not easy to reach your ideal, as a proverb says:
'Rome wasn't built in a day'
so you must be firm in your purpose.
and 'Life is much easier if we didn't complain too much'
since 'Complaint is not a solution'
Mind ! 'A book is like a garden carried in the pocket'
and
'He who requires much learns much'
and at last but not least:
'Man proposes, God disposes.'
Drs. Mahmud, M.S
conversation class,
this old man stayed 7 years in Australia
many stories about him cannot be retold easily
It's not easy to reach your ideal, as a proverb says:
'Rome wasn't built in a day'
so you must be firm in your purpose.
and 'Life is much easier if we didn't complain too much'
since 'Complaint is not a solution'
Mind ! 'A book is like a garden carried in the pocket'
and
'He who requires much learns much'
and at last but not least:
'Man proposes, God disposes.'
Drs. Mahmud, M.S
conversation class,
this old man stayed 7 years in Australia
many stories about him cannot be retold easily
healthy is priceless
some of you may usually catch a cold.. flu.. cough..
some of you may have ever gone to specialist to check your stomach,, your head,, your hand.. anything..
i've ever had a serious illness which really made me down..
every time i felt the pain .. i was like.. God.. am i gonna die now?
every time i couldn't close my eyes i was like... God.. if you want me to die.. just do it don't lemme drown with the great feeling of this illness
it was few years ago when i was at 2nd grade of senior high school..
my head bumped on hard stuff.. rock or something.. when i practiced karate..
then.. it all started..
the woozy... the pain..
till one day a friend asked me to go to see the neurologist..
and... all the medications began..
it was tiresome..
but friends and family gave me great supports..
my head was better.. but then my knee ...
i fell when i played badminton,, but i ignored it .. i loved sport.. being injured was a usual thing..but then i found it was different.. again.. i met the specialist.. i had 3 months to get the therapy..
and.. wallllaaa... knee was good..
i thought everything was okay...
but then few years later.. when i was at 5th semester at university,,
the pain on my head back..
i tried to feel nothing .. but it was really something..
then i gotta back to see a specialist.. neurologist .. again...
i was like.... all right... hey doc..i need your help my head feels like cracking
it didn't stop right there... i was hospitalized for several times..
really boring... really tiring..
at that time i hate God,,, i said..why should i feel this way...???
but then.. i thanked to God.. by having that pain.. i could appreciate this life much better than ever..
till today.. i thank Him for that..
we'll never know what will happen to us ... we can predict a situation.. but we can't predict all situations..
or in short.. man proposes God disposes
anyway.. when you are ill .. sick..
you just have to face it... think positive.. and you'll feel better
i've been through those moments...
when i had to see lots of doctors..
when i had to find out,, what happened to my head,, my stomach,, my eyes,, my nose,,my knee,,
once i felt.. i've done with it ..enough .. i didn't wanna care about it... but then .. i realized.. there were many people out there that couldn't survive any longer..
so i made my mind.. i will not give up ...
actually when i typed the first word above.. i just wanted to tell you about my flu.. but i guessed.. old stories could help me feel better..
hahaha :D
ow..
it feels good sharing this story...
thanks for reading this.. ^_^
some of you may have ever gone to specialist to check your stomach,, your head,, your hand.. anything..
i've ever had a serious illness which really made me down..
every time i felt the pain .. i was like.. God.. am i gonna die now?
every time i couldn't close my eyes i was like... God.. if you want me to die.. just do it don't lemme drown with the great feeling of this illness
it was few years ago when i was at 2nd grade of senior high school..
my head bumped on hard stuff.. rock or something.. when i practiced karate..
then.. it all started..
the woozy... the pain..
till one day a friend asked me to go to see the neurologist..
and... all the medications began..
it was tiresome..
but friends and family gave me great supports..
my head was better.. but then my knee ...
i fell when i played badminton,, but i ignored it .. i loved sport.. being injured was a usual thing..but then i found it was different.. again.. i met the specialist.. i had 3 months to get the therapy..
and.. wallllaaa... knee was good..
i thought everything was okay...
but then few years later.. when i was at 5th semester at university,,
the pain on my head back..
i tried to feel nothing .. but it was really something..
then i gotta back to see a specialist.. neurologist .. again...
i was like.... all right... hey doc..i need your help my head feels like cracking
it didn't stop right there... i was hospitalized for several times..
really boring... really tiring..
at that time i hate God,,, i said..why should i feel this way...???
but then.. i thanked to God.. by having that pain.. i could appreciate this life much better than ever..
till today.. i thank Him for that..
we'll never know what will happen to us ... we can predict a situation.. but we can't predict all situations..
or in short.. man proposes God disposes
anyway.. when you are ill .. sick..
you just have to face it... think positive.. and you'll feel better
i've been through those moments...
when i had to see lots of doctors..
when i had to find out,, what happened to my head,, my stomach,, my eyes,, my nose,,my knee,,
once i felt.. i've done with it ..enough .. i didn't wanna care about it... but then .. i realized.. there were many people out there that couldn't survive any longer..
so i made my mind.. i will not give up ...
actually when i typed the first word above.. i just wanted to tell you about my flu.. but i guessed.. old stories could help me feel better..
hahaha :D
ow..
it feels good sharing this story...
thanks for reading this.. ^_^
11.21.2009
smart people vs freedom writers
what's on your mind when you meet people who are so brilliant.. or smarter than you...??
what comes to your head when you see a family... consists of smart people?
what will you say,, when you have smart lecturers/seniors but they cannot share their ideas.. they always forget your name,,, they don't care that you want to be smart as them..
anyway..SMART PEOPLE is the title of the latest movie i watched,,
i've seen many great movies.. but this is different...
may be b'coz i've ever worked as a lecturer,, teaching university students.
and because until this moment on... i still work as a tutor.. teaching many kinds of people (workers,, HS students,, graduated uni students,,uni students and so on)
this movie reminds me ...
being a lecturer or teacher or tutor.. whatever you name it..
we really have to be smart people ...
smart ,, not only know how to teach.. how to share ideas,, how to be respected,,how to treat students or anyone else,,, but also know how to be a good role model..
this movie tells us about a senior lecturer ..who is really really brilliant in his field.. but unfortunately.. he never respects his students.. his staffs.. even his son and his daughter..
he always thinks .. he is the right person,, what he says is true.. his ideas is always perfect..
on the flip side.. none likes him at all...nobody respects him.. not even his children..
ow.. it's so irritating.. but you know what? he doesn't care about that.. he is truly a selfish man...
never listening others...always listening his own words..
have you met someone like this?
well.. i bet you don't like her/him...
this movie will make you feel different...
great players... Dennis Quid, sarah jessica parker,Ellen Page, Ashton Holmes, Thomas Haden Churh
some of you maybe have watched this movie..
it's really a drama...
but it's about a life... haha..
talking about smart people .. i remember another movie.. entitled FREEDOM WRITERS,, a story about a smart woman (played by: Hillary Swank), who decided to be a teacher in a high school which is really i n trouble..
no students want to study,, and the govt. doesn't support this school at all...
so this woman tries her best to do everything she can..
she even has another job,, just to get more money .. to buy great books for her students,,,
in the end.. she encourages the students to write a journal...and finally all the journals written by the students are arranged into a book..
a book about about the real stories of their lives..
this movie....
it will remind us that being a teacher is not only teaching... it's more than that..
i know deep inside our heart we always want to give more and more to everyone else.. although sometimes it's hard..
anyway.. this woman struggles her students education.. and even their lives matters,,, while she cannot struggle her own life.. he is left by his husband,, who doesn't like seeing his wife works too hard for someone else...
this movie is a true story.. and it has a happy ending...
if you watch both of of these movies you will understand what i mean...
so guys.... if you haven't watched those movies....
better watch your step.. hehehe just kidding...
watch it!! you'll see why i cannot explain it in detail... ^_^
what comes to your head when you see a family... consists of smart people?
what will you say,, when you have smart lecturers/seniors but they cannot share their ideas.. they always forget your name,,, they don't care that you want to be smart as them..
anyway..SMART PEOPLE is the title of the latest movie i watched,,
i've seen many great movies.. but this is different...
may be b'coz i've ever worked as a lecturer,, teaching university students.
and because until this moment on... i still work as a tutor.. teaching many kinds of people (workers,, HS students,, graduated uni students,,uni students and so on)
this movie reminds me ...
being a lecturer or teacher or tutor.. whatever you name it..
we really have to be smart people ...
smart ,, not only know how to teach.. how to share ideas,, how to be respected,,how to treat students or anyone else,,, but also know how to be a good role model..
this movie tells us about a senior lecturer ..who is really really brilliant in his field.. but unfortunately.. he never respects his students.. his staffs.. even his son and his daughter..
he always thinks .. he is the right person,, what he says is true.. his ideas is always perfect..
on the flip side.. none likes him at all...nobody respects him.. not even his children..
ow.. it's so irritating.. but you know what? he doesn't care about that.. he is truly a selfish man...
never listening others...always listening his own words..
have you met someone like this?
well.. i bet you don't like her/him...
this movie will make you feel different...
great players... Dennis Quid, sarah jessica parker,Ellen Page, Ashton Holmes, Thomas Haden Churh
some of you maybe have watched this movie..
it's really a drama...
but it's about a life... haha..
talking about smart people .. i remember another movie.. entitled FREEDOM WRITERS,, a story about a smart woman (played by: Hillary Swank), who decided to be a teacher in a high school which is really i n trouble..
no students want to study,, and the govt. doesn't support this school at all...
so this woman tries her best to do everything she can..
she even has another job,, just to get more money .. to buy great books for her students,,,
in the end.. she encourages the students to write a journal...and finally all the journals written by the students are arranged into a book..
a book about about the real stories of their lives..
this movie....
it will remind us that being a teacher is not only teaching... it's more than that..
i know deep inside our heart we always want to give more and more to everyone else.. although sometimes it's hard..
anyway.. this woman struggles her students education.. and even their lives matters,,, while she cannot struggle her own life.. he is left by his husband,, who doesn't like seeing his wife works too hard for someone else...
this movie is a true story.. and it has a happy ending...
if you watch both of of these movies you will understand what i mean...
so guys.... if you haven't watched those movies....
better watch your step.. hehehe just kidding...
watch it!! you'll see why i cannot explain it in detail... ^_^
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