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The power of 'words'

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You miss it when you leave it. ..

This is one of rest areas in Selorejo... located in Malang. ....

Kids' Language

A week ago I happened to go home, to my parents' house.

I met my two heroes.. (that's how I call my nephews) ^___^

I haven't seen them for around 5 months and found many changes in them.

From the way they act to the way they talk..

I did study Second Language Acquisition and found certain cases in one of my nephews.

He started to use certain words of English.

He even taught me some words..

That impressed me a lot since when he was younger I was the one who taught him to say things in English.

One day, I asked him to do something and I forgot to say thanks, then he smiled at me and said "you should say thank...." waiting for my response, and it seemed that he couldn't wait any longer since he told me to continue the word 'thank..' 

I opened my eyes widely and tested him "thank what?"

Then he answered "thank you...you should say thank you to me"

Not only that, he also taught me the word 'speed bump'

When we were in the car and suddenly passed through some speed bumps he said "those things are speed bump... speed... bump..."

hahaha things change really fast, I cannot notice one by one... 

DISCREPANCY.. NOT ANYONE’S FAULT II

When I see mothers, I keep learning and understanding the way they do everything ..I see my mom is the best , I guess everyone will vote for their own mother haha..

Anyway, my mom is a modern woman; she has a wonderful career, which of course makes me think that being a woman is not merely being at the kitchen.

Women have lots of opportunities to do whatever they like without feeling guilty.

For some societies, being women is being mothers, meaning: staying at home and taking care husband and kids.

In my family, my big family to be précised, being a woman means being who you are. There is no limitation of the things you want to do, you have your own rule when to start and when to quit.

My grandpa, used to tell me about the importance of having a bright career in our life. It’s about fulfilling our spiritual and material needs.

I know the pleasure of having a good career. It’s like you can pick your fave stuffs and fave societies.

By the way...I happened to have an exclusive opportunity to stay in one’s family which I call as my new family. The mother here loves cooking and has a small shop at home, which makes her to be absolutely different from my mom. She stays at home all the time, focusing on her shop and family. She sometimes cooks for big occasions, however, she never experiences the so-called business trips or business meeting as my mom always does. She never enjoys reading newspapers or books like my mom does and this causes her to have limited way of thinking. She thinks locally not globally. She always believes that women should spend all their time to give the best service for their family and men should not get involved into house’s stuffs.  From this point, I see the discrepancy of thoughts between two mothers and two families.

My mom never closes her eyes to anything. She is an open minded person which makes her so beautiful in every way.  My dad is a respectable man who also thinks that women should be very smart in every occasion, inside and outside the house, not only inside the house. He is always proud of being a husband who can respect his wife’s choices and support her in every way. They share the housework which creates an independent family ever.

One thing that I keep in mind is even though my mom has a busy life as a career woman she never forgets to take care of my dad and all of her children. She can put her family above the other things and she can still manage her time very well to build her career. I’m proud of being one of her children yet I don’t underestimate other mothers who choose to spend their lifetime to stay at home and be good housewives.

Life is a choice. Each choice has its own responsibility. Whether it is tough or light, still it is something to be lived.

Discrepancy... not anyone’s fault (I)

Love, when it comes to marriage.. is like entering a totally different world..

I’m not saying that the meaning would change, but the focus would absolutely change.

In other words, a couple who spend a day without having commitment as husband and wife might not think of the so-called kid. Perhaps some do consider about this but I believe it’s only for those who 100% love kids.

The point is . . .

Men and women tend to have a different goal in living this life. For women who do not have high education background tend to follow their husbands without having the reasons or let’s say the right reasons to do it. They have no power needed to deny their husbands although what the husbands do might not be proper.

The funny thing is; God always decides this way.. setting a powerful man up to a weak lady.. which is in certain ways none can uncover this fact. However, because of the difference somehow some couple survive better. Which is again, very funny. Let’s take an example: you have a discussion with some friends about something then you are in the cons part, I believe that you whatever happens would defend your argument to show the right points based on your paradigm. It is to say, if this situation happens in a marriage life, then, what happen?

Well, some couples who are deeply into it would may be act as nothing happen, while others who never imagine things will work that way can end up in the court with excellent lawyers.

Everything on earth can be seen from many sides. It’s like two sides of a coin. Just flip and you’ll see the other part. Anyway, life wouldn't  be that easy since we people, human being, are likely to see it not only from two sides.

In a marriage where the women have high education, things won’t go easier, it might be more complicated since women would not only do but think. Their paradigm of life tries to suit the others around her. They, tend to be more modern, and are able to find the smart ways in solving any problems even though  the way they think might not be understood by others especially their husband. This would create incomparable argument in which their thoughts experiencing dramatic discrepancy.

How to solve?

They should go back to the first time they say “yes for the marriage”. It will somehow refresh their mind about the huge feeling they might have back in those days.

Is it easy? No, BIG NO, since everyone cannot just go back to see what’s behind them while they have gone far away from that.

However, some are willing to do that... while others not, especially those who have tried to deny any negative thoughts before getting into marriage.

Why?

Well, since they couldn't solve the problem in the early marriage, they will live with it like forever. Some couples who realise the fact that they actually cannot be together in a marriage will not go further on the whole things by cancelling the wedding, but those who feel the same way and surrounded by their family won’t have a huge capacity to do anything except trying to go through with it and find a way to fix it.

Pretty risky? Yes, but life would be very boring if everything goes on the right path without any bump.

Am I right on this? 

The best advice is .. find your true love, find a soul mate (literally) who can suits your intelligence, no matter what, even if you need 10 years, someday you’ll thank God for that.

This Is It.. PART 7.... ^_^

"It doesn't take a long time to realize that someone is in love or attracted to others, but somehow it takes years to finally find someone just your type.. "

Joey stopped reading an article written by one of her journalists. She closed her eyes and turned on the music, Incognito which might be the best answer to refresh her mind.
She never realized that one of her partners in publishing business was one of her types. A modern man whose thoughts suit her paradigm, whose attitudes
 resemble to hers in every way.
"it's really annoying....."
"what is so annoying...?"
Lena popped up a question when she suddenly entered the room. Joey was surprised, She opened her eyes, then smiled and said: "you know Lena... it's annoying when you finally meet someone you had been looking for ... like.. years..but you cannot change the things since you have your commitment with someone else.."
Lena sat on the table and starred at her close friend. Her eyebrows were lifted and her mouth was frozen then it was opened slowly.
"I'm not following.. sorry.. what are you talking about?"
"It's about the guy just my type.."
"No idea.."
"Well... you know this man.. He's one of our business relations"
"Hold on.. are you saying that you like someone other than your boyfriend?"
"Hmmm.. I'm not saying that I like him.. but.. I might have a special feeling for him.."
"Oh Dear, you are in trouble.. don't mess up with your beautiful life dear... it's your future for God sake..!"
"I know.. I'm not trying to jeopardize my life.. my future.. it's just strange.. awkward... it's like.. you lost your fave stuff and suddenly you find it.. it's such a miracle.. you know.."
Lena put her hands in the air and stood in front of Joey.
"Ok.. it's your life.. it's your future.. I'm just one of your external factors..I'm out.. call me when you are done with your work.."
Joey smiled starring at her best friend walking out her room and again read the article she had to edit.


(To be continued)

Love your life and Life will love you back....

This is my new story....... 

another NEw Life . . .

Ada gitu another new life?
Of course... tergantung darimana kita melihat dan mengartikannya.

Ada sebuah fakta yang hingga kini patut untuk difahami dan mungkin ditela'ah sedikit.
Fakta tentang rencana anak manusia . . . that's how I name it . . .

Semua manusia atau makhluk hidup di dunia ini dengan atau tanpa sadar selalu merencanakan segala sesuatu dalam menjalani hidupnya.

Semua rencana yang sudah dibuat seringkali meleset dari perkiraan atau bisa jadi sesuai dengan perkiraan.
Semuanya sudah ada yang mengatur... Tuhan pastinya... tidak mungkin sesama manusia mampu menciptakan rencana-rencana yang luar biasa indah, dan diluar dari imajinasi seseorang.

Meski sering saya berkata "again.. it's out of plan" . . . tapi tidak jarang pula saya bersyukur karena mengalami "out of plan" itu.

Setelah menjalani kehidupan selama hampir tiga puluh tahun, saya mulai menyadari, bahwa the greatest power on the universe itu memang belongs to Allah SWT.

kenapa harus menunggu selama itu untuk bisa benar-benar menyadari hal tersebut? I don't have the answer for that...  hanya Allah yang bisa menjawabnya...

bertahun-tahun yang lalu . . . apa yang saya rencanakan selalu sesuai dengan list yang saya buat. which is WOW! karena tidak semua orang bisa mengalami itu.

namun suatu ketika, Allah mulai menegur . . . "Vie, please ... you are a human being" yang pastinya tidak bisa memprediksi segala sesuatunya dengan benar.

sempat terjatuh karena sakit, saya kembali berjalan dengan tertatih-tatih.
TIRING!! tapi akhirnya saya mampu berjalan sampai sejauh ini. Subhanallah!!!

saya semakin sadar diri bahwa manusia sudah sepatutnya menyadari bahwa segala sesuatu yang didapat belum tentu menjadi miliknya selamanya.

merasakan kehilangan bukanlah hal yang baru untuk diceritakan, namun layak untuk diingat kembali karena ketika kita kehilangan sesuatu.. sebenarnya Allah menggantinya dengan sesuatu yang lebih indah. TRUST ME!!!

Have fun with every single moment you have, then you'll feel the difference... ^___________^

. . . Bahkan satu titik-pun bermakna dalam . . .

Suatu ketika, di kelas Pasca Sarjana, mata kuliah Teaching Practice

Pagi itu kami sedang berdiskusi tentang RPP seorang teman dengan mata kuliah Reading.

Dosen saya bertanya "kenapa titiknya harus tiga?"
Saya menjawab dengan lantang "karena itu standard dalam pembuatan soal ma'am"
Beliau tidak lantas mengiyakan, beliau menambahkan pertanyaan "apa alasan dibalik jumlah titik yang hanya tiga?"
Beliau terlihat cukup emosional, hingga ahirnya ada seorang teman yang mengangkat tangan dan berujar "Titik yang dipakai hanya tiga karena di akhir soal sudah terdapat satu titik, yang artinya jumlah titik ada empat."
Beliau tersenyum lega karena pada akhirnya beliau tak lagi harus menjelaskan sesuatu yang sebenarny sudah kami pelajari pada perkuliahan semester 1.


Titik . . . .

it's a very simple thing but it has a deep meaning, it's not only a dot, it's more than that.

Dari sini saya berusaha memahami suatu fakta tentang saya, yang selama ini seringkali memperhatikan detil-detil yang mungkin bagi orang lain tak berarti apapun.

Selagi masih dalam batas wajar, apa yang selama ini saya lakukan ternyata memang harus dilakukan.



-Vie


       

This Is It.. part 6

It was saturday, and like the other days, she went to her office, where she worked as an editor, a job that took her busy all the time.

She liked that job very much, well, she did not like it at the first time, but then she fell in love with it. She helped many new writers became better writers, and she enjoyed reading many people's works.

She could manage her time between working and having fun very well.

That morning, in her room at the office. She gazed at her computer sharply. She had to edit a journal that would be published internationally, for several times her right finger clicked on delete button.

Suddenly her cellphone rang, she ignored it and kept focusing her eyes on the screen.

About fifteen minutes later, one of her staffs knocked on her door.

She raised her eyebrows, and put off her glasses.

She asked: "What's up Clara?"

Clara said: "Well, someone is calling you, He said he called your cellphone but you didn't pick it up"

In a second she looked at her cellphone and smiled.

"well.. yeah it's my boyfriend, just tell him to hang up the phone, I 'll contact him later"

Clara smiled back at her and said: "are you sure? I mean, it seems he really wants to talk to you"

She answered: "yes, thanks, but I cannot leave this stuff".

(to be continued)

the ONE

November 19, 2012

The shadow blocked her way

The rain made her run away

The thunder hit her heart

The wind held her thought

Her step swept the roads,

Her bare hands were shaking,

Trembling,longing for his hands,

While the wind was blowing

Love, what is love?

Dream, what is dream?

Destiny, what is destiny?

Justice, what is justice?

The zip was wrapped

Her eyes closed,

She ran along her mind

Swimming through her dream land

Flowers starred at her

Such an aisle in the churches,

The road is narrowed by hundreds of chairs

Again, eyes closed, as the fragrance withheld her

Eyes gazing at her

Lips smiling bitterly

Hands shaking stronger

Arms embracing her tightly

Her mind was none

Her heart was none

Her tears dropped

Her breath stopped

Embraces ended 

Her knees were weakened

Her body was chilled

Her eyes widened

Finding the one

Gone,

Left her,

Forever...

well...

sometimes
you don't realize... when you give too much to others .. there's nothing left for yourself..
but again... when you try not to give to others..
you'll feel even worse..

dilemma ??
perhaps..

a confession

If you ask me a question

"are you okay?"

I probably will answer

"Cool"

though my heart says "I'm not.. I'm trying to be okay"

such a complicated matter

when it comes to heart

at least that what I feel 

I never imagined being hurt

I never imagined being alone

However ....

time goes by...

I cannot control any situation in my life

everything seems so extra ordinary

beyond my imagination

beyond my knowledge

it starts freaking me out

it makes me feel like 'life is not fun'

it drives me think 'life is painful'

it takes more than 24 hours to realize that life is more than that..

it takes months to finally get the ideas of being happy is not always being perfect

since perfect never exists

I need a big courage from my own self to eventually believe that my mind is worthy

I should stop thinking about every issue in my life

so that I can get a better chance to change the things

well..

it's my confession about what I have been feeling recently

Life is actually not just 'being alive'

Life is precisely about 'taking and giving'

to me.. 

this time..

giving more is a brilliant idea..

and... saying 'thanks'

is such a marvelous thing... no matter what happen inside our heart.. 

                                                          -ViE

The Shadow

Dark....
Cold....

My eyes closed
Inside my head
Thousands of pictures 
Flying around 

Faces
Smiling
Crying
Laughing

Fever
Trembling
Painful
Frightened

Running away
Walking away

Dark
Cold

The wind blows my face,
wraps my body, 
tears my heart into pieces,
leaves here


Alone
Hurt

Love

if I ever fall in love again
will I ever fall in love again?


                                                                                                                 -ViE

a NEw Start

whenever we get any problem.. we will feel like every special thing in our life is meaningless though we actually know that a problem comes because we need to be grown up and we need to be better in all the way

one day....
I felt that my life was upside down..
it was like a moment when you were a kid.. and you got a toy you dream.. but then suddenly you lost it..
and your mom said.. "you'll get another toy" and we only nodded and say nothing.. (at least that's what I imagine).

today..
I have decided..
I have to set the things better.. because I believe that everybody deserves to get another chance... like it or not.. the options might be not enjoyable.. but that's how it works.. that's how the life should move on..
none has to live on earth in the under pressures.. or as my friend say.. under the weather..
there are moments of course which make us stay under .. "whatever you name it" however.. as human beings.. people have the power to a greater thing.. a better thing.. and a smarter life..

I might never be able to unwrap all stories in my life.. even though.. my post will always imply the real stories..

whatever I write in my blog.. is based on my real experiences..

welcome back to my blog..  ^^

keep on moving....

two years ago I learned how to make a great decision in my life..
two months ago I learned how to accept the risks of that great decision..
two days ago I learned how to deal with everything without making a great risk for the next years..


it looks simple in the beginning.. 
however..


it's not that simple if you are in that position..
things cannot be counted easily..


today.... 
I'm learning something..
no matter what.. we need to listen to our heart..
though logically.. we know that it's not appropriate.. but the bottom line is.. we know the limit..
before it's too late..
because how strong you are..
you cannot go back to the past and change everything...
so let's think..
RIGHT HERE and RIGHT NOW.. 
and feel it as our own moment... 

someone...

I suddenly remember.. someone told me bout this...

Love is something that you can keep inside your heart.. but there are moments when you have to realise that you can't always struggle for it because so many illogical reasons on earth...

I disagree actually..

In my opinion.. love ... is something..

it's such a gift..

God gives it to us.. then we have to manage ourselves .. not only to keep it.. but struggle for it..

well.. that is only a theory.. I think..

However..in reality.. no matter how hard we try to get what we want..in this case love.. if it is not for us.. if it doesn't belong to us.. it will never come back to us.. it will never be ours...

the question is...

can love.. guide the lovers to be together as a couple?

in some situations... the answer is yes!

in other situations... the answer is no!

in my situation... it depends!

how's yours?

hmm...

This Is OnLy 'It'

I still remember those days when I first time wrote a story under the title 'THIS IS IT', it was really fun starting to write it.

However there were moments when I had no power to spare my time to do that...

and the worst..For several times I typed words by words but then I deleted it, as I actually had no idea of what to write.

It was on my head to be precised.. still.. I couldn't let it out ..

Anyway..

This is a note for my beloved friends who faithfully read all of my stories..

and soon, I will continue to write again..

Thank you for being such a good reader ^____^

This Is It.. part 5

15 days Later...

She took her book, journal book, contained stories of her life.

Her finger searched an empty page, when she found one, she held her pen tightly, and started writing.

HiGh And DrY

Today is just like the other day,

He called me on the phone, saying “I miss you”

We have not met for 15 days, it is fine, I mean, we keep in touch every day, it is like seeing him, but cannot touch him.

Somehow, I feel he is around me, and keeps an eye on me all the time.

Somehow, I feel his hands embrace me, and hug me gently.

Somehow, I feel he is here but I just cannot see him.

It was like killing me when he suddenly said “I really want to see you”

I could only answer “see me then, come here”

But all I could hear he whined and said “I’m not going back there to stay, but may be I’ll visit you some time”

Some time, that word was like cutting my heart into pieces, which for me it would be so hard to mend because, I’ve been trying to fix the old pain.

I knew this time would come, but I always hope that it would never end this way.

Is it wrong if I’d better die than living without his love?

Is it wrong?

God, I know You are looking at me now, You are listening to whatever I say, I am begging You..

I need him, as one piece to make those broken pieces stick together.

He completes me.

He is always the part of me.

He will always be the part of me.

Please let us be the one, hand in hand living our love ‘til the end of our time.

Don’t leave me high, and then

leave me dry..

(For him I always adore)