You miss it when you leave it. ..

This is one of rest areas in Selorejo... located in Malang. ....

Kids' Language

A week ago I happened to go home, to my parents' house.

I met my two heroes.. (that's how I call my nephews) ^___^

I haven't seen them for around 5 months and found many changes in them.

From the way they act to the way they talk..

I did study Second Language Acquisition and found certain cases in one of my nephews.

He started to use certain words of English.

He even taught me some words..

That impressed me a lot since when he was younger I was the one who taught him to say things in English.

One day, I asked him to do something and I forgot to say thanks, then he smiled at me and said "you should say thank...." waiting for my response, and it seemed that he couldn't wait any longer since he told me to continue the word 'thank..' 

I opened my eyes widely and tested him "thank what?"

Then he answered "thank you...you should say thank you to me"

Not only that, he also taught me the word 'speed bump'

When we were in the car and suddenly passed through some speed bumps he said "those things are speed bump... speed... bump..."

hahaha things change really fast, I cannot notice one by one... 

DISCREPANCY.. NOT ANYONE’S FAULT II

When I see mothers, I keep learning and understanding the way they do everything ..I see my mom is the best , I guess everyone will vote for their own mother haha..

Anyway, my mom is a modern woman; she has a wonderful career, which of course makes me think that being a woman is not merely being at the kitchen.

Women have lots of opportunities to do whatever they like without feeling guilty.

For some societies, being women is being mothers, meaning: staying at home and taking care husband and kids.

In my family, my big family to be précised, being a woman means being who you are. There is no limitation of the things you want to do, you have your own rule when to start and when to quit.

My grandpa, used to tell me about the importance of having a bright career in our life. It’s about fulfilling our spiritual and material needs.

I know the pleasure of having a good career. It’s like you can pick your fave stuffs and fave societies.

By the way...I happened to have an exclusive opportunity to stay in one’s family which I call as my new family. The mother here loves cooking and has a small shop at home, which makes her to be absolutely different from my mom. She stays at home all the time, focusing on her shop and family. She sometimes cooks for big occasions, however, she never experiences the so-called business trips or business meeting as my mom always does. She never enjoys reading newspapers or books like my mom does and this causes her to have limited way of thinking. She thinks locally not globally. She always believes that women should spend all their time to give the best service for their family and men should not get involved into house’s stuffs.  From this point, I see the discrepancy of thoughts between two mothers and two families.

My mom never closes her eyes to anything. She is an open minded person which makes her so beautiful in every way.  My dad is a respectable man who also thinks that women should be very smart in every occasion, inside and outside the house, not only inside the house. He is always proud of being a husband who can respect his wife’s choices and support her in every way. They share the housework which creates an independent family ever.

One thing that I keep in mind is even though my mom has a busy life as a career woman she never forgets to take care of my dad and all of her children. She can put her family above the other things and she can still manage her time very well to build her career. I’m proud of being one of her children yet I don’t underestimate other mothers who choose to spend their lifetime to stay at home and be good housewives.

Life is a choice. Each choice has its own responsibility. Whether it is tough or light, still it is something to be lived.