aLVeey's W0RLd
where I share my ideas and my stories.....
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4.29.2014
Kids' Language
A week ago I happened to go home, to my parents' house.
I met my two heroes.. (that's how I call my nephews) ^___^
I haven't seen them for around 5 months and found many changes in them.
From the way they act to the way they talk..
I did study Second Language Acquisition and found certain cases in one of my nephews.
He started to use certain words of English.
He even taught me some words..
That impressed me a lot since when he was younger I was the one who taught him to say things in English.
One day, I asked him to do something and I forgot to say thanks, then he smiled at me and said "you should say thank...." waiting for my response, and it seemed that he couldn't wait any longer since he told me to continue the word 'thank..'
I opened my eyes widely and tested him "thank what?"
Then he answered "thank you...you should say thank you to me"
Not only that, he also taught me the word 'speed bump'
When we were in the car and suddenly passed through some speed bumps he said "those things are speed bump... speed... bump..."
hahaha things change really fast, I cannot notice one by one...
1.23.2014
DISCREPANCY.. NOT ANYONE’S FAULT II
When I see mothers,
I keep learning and understanding the way they do everything ..I see my mom is
the best , I guess everyone will vote for their own mother haha..
Anyway, my
mom is a modern woman; she has a wonderful career, which of
course makes me think that being a woman is not merely being at the kitchen.
Women have
lots of opportunities to do whatever they like without feeling guilty.
For some
societies, being women is being mothers, meaning: staying at home and taking
care husband and kids.
In my family,
my big family to be précised, being a woman means being who you are. There is
no limitation of the things you want to do, you have your own rule when to
start and when to quit.
My grandpa,
used to tell me about the importance of having a bright career in our life. It’s
about fulfilling our spiritual and material needs.
I know the
pleasure of having a good career. It’s like you can pick your fave stuffs and
fave societies.
By the
way...I happened to have an exclusive opportunity to stay in one’s family which
I call as my new family. The mother here loves cooking and has a small shop at
home, which makes her to be absolutely different from my mom. She stays at home
all the time, focusing on her shop and family. She sometimes cooks for big occasions,
however, she never experiences the so-called business trips or business meeting
as my mom always does. She never enjoys reading newspapers or books like my mom
does and this causes her to have limited way of thinking. She thinks locally
not globally. She always believes that women should spend all their time to
give the best service for their family and men should not get involved into house’s stuffs. From this point,
I see the discrepancy of thoughts between two mothers and two families.
My mom
never closes her eyes to anything. She is an open minded person which makes her
so beautiful in every way. My dad is a
respectable man who also thinks that women should be very smart in every occasion,
inside and outside the house, not only inside the house. He is always proud of
being a husband who can respect his wife’s choices and support her in every
way. They share the housework which creates an independent family ever.
One thing
that I keep in mind is even though my mom has a busy life as a career woman she
never forgets to take care of my dad and all of her children. She can put her family
above the other things and she can still manage her time very well to build her
career. I’m proud of being one of her children yet I don’t
underestimate other mothers who
choose to spend their lifetime to stay at home and be good housewives.
Life is a choice. Each choice
has its own responsibility. Whether it is tough or light, still it is something
to be lived.
11.10.2013
Discrepancy... not anyone’s fault (I)
Love, when it comes to
marriage.. is like entering a totally different world..
I’m not saying that the
meaning would change, but the focus would absolutely change.
In other words, a couple who
spend a day without having commitment as husband and wife might not think of
the so-called kid. Perhaps some do consider about this but I believe it’s only
for those who 100% love kids.
The point is . . .
Men and women tend to have a different
goal in living this life. For women who do not have high education background
tend to follow their husbands without having the reasons or let’s say the right
reasons to do it. They have no power needed to deny their husbands although what
the husbands do might not be proper.
The funny thing is; God
always decides this way.. setting a powerful man up to a weak lady.. which is
in certain ways none can uncover this fact. However, because of the
difference somehow some couple survive better. Which is again, very funny.
Let’s take an example: you have a discussion with some friends about something
then you are in the cons part, I believe that you whatever happens would defend
your argument to show the right points based on your paradigm. It is to say, if
this situation happens in a marriage life, then, what happen?
Well, some couples who are
deeply into it would may be act as nothing happen, while others who never
imagine things will work that way can end up in the court with excellent
lawyers.
Everything on earth can be
seen from many sides. It’s like two sides of a coin. Just flip and you’ll see
the other part. Anyway, life wouldn't be
that easy since we people, human being, are likely to see it not only from two
sides.
In a marriage where the women
have high education, things won’t go easier, it might be more complicated since
women would not only do but think. Their paradigm of life tries to suit the
others around her. They, tend to be more modern, and are able to find the smart
ways in solving any problems even though
the way they think might not be understood by others especially their
husband. This would create incomparable argument in which their thoughts
experiencing dramatic discrepancy.
How to solve?
They should go back to the
first time they say “yes for the marriage”. It will somehow refresh their mind
about the huge feeling they might have back in those days.
Is it easy? No, BIG NO, since
everyone cannot just go back to see what’s behind them while they have gone far
away from that.
However, some are willing to do that... while others not, especially those who have tried to deny any negative thoughts before getting into marriage.
Why?
Well, since they couldn't solve the problem in the early marriage, they will live with it like forever. Some couples who realise the fact that they actually cannot be together in a marriage will not go further on the whole things by cancelling the wedding, but those who feel the same way and surrounded by their family won’t have a huge capacity to do anything except trying to go through with it and find a way to fix it.
Pretty risky? Yes, but life
would be very boring if everything goes on the right path without any bump.
Am I right on this?
The best advice is .. find
your true love, find a soul mate (literally) who can suits your intelligence, no
matter what, even if you need 10 years, someday you’ll thank God for that.
11.04.2013
This Is It.. PART 7.... ^_^
"It doesn't take a long time to realize that someone is in love or attracted to others, but somehow it takes years to finally find someone just your type.. "
Joey stopped reading an article written by one of her journalists. She closed her eyes and turned on the music, Incognito which might be the best answer to refresh her mind.
She never realized that one of her partners in publishing business was one of her types. A modern man whose thoughts suit her paradigm, whose attitudes
resemble to hers in every way.
"it's really annoying....."
"what is so annoying...?"
Lena popped up a question when she suddenly entered the room. Joey was surprised, She opened her eyes, then smiled and said: "you know Lena... it's annoying when you finally meet someone you had been looking for ... like.. years..but you cannot change the things since you have your commitment with someone else.."
Lena sat on the table and starred at her close friend. Her eyebrows were lifted and her mouth was frozen then it was opened slowly.
"I'm not following.. sorry.. what are you talking about?"
"It's about the guy just my type.."
"No idea.."
"Well... you know this man.. He's one of our business relations"
"Hold on.. are you saying that you like someone other than your boyfriend?"
"Hmmm.. I'm not saying that I like him.. but.. I might have a special feeling for him.."
"Oh Dear, you are in trouble.. don't mess up with your beautiful life dear... it's your future for God sake..!"
"I know.. I'm not trying to jeopardize my life.. my future.. it's just strange.. awkward... it's like.. you lost your fave stuff and suddenly you find it.. it's such a miracle.. you know.."
Lena put her hands in the air and stood in front of Joey.
"Ok.. it's your life.. it's your future.. I'm just one of your external factors..I'm out.. call me when you are done with your work.."
Joey smiled starring at her best friend walking out her room and again read the article she had to edit.
(To be continued)
Joey stopped reading an article written by one of her journalists. She closed her eyes and turned on the music, Incognito which might be the best answer to refresh her mind.
She never realized that one of her partners in publishing business was one of her types. A modern man whose thoughts suit her paradigm, whose attitudes
resemble to hers in every way.
"it's really annoying....."
"what is so annoying...?"
Lena popped up a question when she suddenly entered the room. Joey was surprised, She opened her eyes, then smiled and said: "you know Lena... it's annoying when you finally meet someone you had been looking for ... like.. years..but you cannot change the things since you have your commitment with someone else.."
Lena sat on the table and starred at her close friend. Her eyebrows were lifted and her mouth was frozen then it was opened slowly.
"I'm not following.. sorry.. what are you talking about?"
"It's about the guy just my type.."
"No idea.."
"Well... you know this man.. He's one of our business relations"
"Hold on.. are you saying that you like someone other than your boyfriend?"
"Hmmm.. I'm not saying that I like him.. but.. I might have a special feeling for him.."
"Oh Dear, you are in trouble.. don't mess up with your beautiful life dear... it's your future for God sake..!"
"I know.. I'm not trying to jeopardize my life.. my future.. it's just strange.. awkward... it's like.. you lost your fave stuff and suddenly you find it.. it's such a miracle.. you know.."
Lena put her hands in the air and stood in front of Joey.
"Ok.. it's your life.. it's your future.. I'm just one of your external factors..I'm out.. call me when you are done with your work.."
Joey smiled starring at her best friend walking out her room and again read the article she had to edit.
(To be continued)
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